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On Thursday a coworker told me not to expect cookies at work.

Cookies, in her terms, is praise.

If I go above and beyond at work am I wrong to expect praise?

The reason I wanted praise is two days prior I asked my boss if I could help out in a different area because a person quit and that area was behind. She agreed. The next day I went to that same area without asking and helped out.

I was telling my coworker that it would have been nice to hear the following:

Hey, Chris. You did a great job today. Thanks for helping out.

or

Thanks for taking the initiative. I appreciate it.

Something.

Anything.

But I heard nothing.

She doesn’t believe in praise. She believes we are there to work and that’s it.

Sorry, but I’m not a robot.

Is it wrong to want to hear praise for taking the initiative without being told? For going above and beyond? For doing a good job?

I don’t need to hear it every day. Every week. Or even every month.

But sometimes it would be nice to hear.

And this week was one of those times.

I can’t tell you the last time I heard praise from management.

After being pissy about this for a day a light bulb came on.

Why don’t I give myself the praise I so desperately want to hear?

Hey, Chris, you did a good job today. I’m proud of you.

So I did.

You know what? It made me happy. I stood a little taller.

I felt good.

Then I heard my mom’s voice in my head.

“You’re getting too big for your britches.”

“Who do you think you are?”

My mom wasn’t much into praise either.

This was my answer to her.

It is not wrong to be acknowledged and noticed for what I do at work.

I know my worth.

And I deserve praise for a job well done even if I have to give it to myself.

Well done Chrissy!

I think sometimes the importance of words are forgotten.

Positive words.

Empowering words.

Healing words.

We all need to hear them.

Words do our hearts good. Our minds good. Words heal us. Empower us. Make us stand taller. Conquer things. Reach our potential.

Words are an important part of self care and for our over all well being.

I don’t think management understands this concept.

I don’t agree with my coworker. A lot of people think she’s a bully. She’s a little rough around the edges.

But she taught me something on Thursday.

Words matter at work.

If I want management to start praising me, then I need to praise myself.

I don’t praise myself at work. I never thought about it. I just thought it was management’s job.

That’s going to change.

I’m going to speak different to myself at work. I’m going to be positive.

I know it’s going to be weird.

It feels weird just writing about it.

I think my next step is how I want to be treated at work by management. I’ve never really thought about this at length before.

This post was suppose end with how we can be kinder and more supportive of others on this Valentine’s Day.

But maybe it’s really about being nicer to ourselves.

About praising ourselves more.

Loving ourselves more.

And moving on from what doesn’t support us.

Don’t wait for others to tell you what to hear.

Tell yourself. Back yourself. Love yourself.

You deserve it.

Happy Valentine’s Day!! 😘

As many of you know I have been on the fence for the last two years on what to do with the four small bins of journals I have.

Do I keep them?

Do I toss them without reading them?

I can’t toss them without reading them, but if I die tomorrow I don’t want anyone reading them. I don’t know why I can’t toss them without reading them. It’s kinda silly.

I’ve decided to read two journals each week in 2021 starting tonight. I will read two journals and tear out the pages that speak to me and toss the rest.

This is the only way I can figure out how to deal it.

Here are the two journals I will be reading this week.

I hope this works.

Wish me luck!

Last week I have went through all of my books and I am let go of 24 books.

I’m bringing four books to the consignment shop next week. I took ten to the bookstore that will pay me a little bit in trade. I put eoght in the donate box.

It wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be, but it wasn’t easy either.

When you let go of stuff you let go of dreams. My dream was to have a whole wall of books in my office. Why? I don’t know. Maybe because that’s what other writers had in their offices.

I may not have a wall of books, but here is what I have.

I kept books I love. Books that I sometimes reference back to. Books that I will read at some point.

It felt good to go through my books and let some go.

This month my goal was to let go of 30 items. I hit that goal.

I also let go of a bra, three pairs of underwear, a pair of socks and a yoga dvd.

I do have goals for 2021 and I will share them with you in the beginning of February.

I’ve been taking it easy this month. At work we are still on 10 hours and Saturdays. The virus is still a concern there. I feel like a dodge it every day. I’m trying to get enough rest and take care of myself.

It feels good to write a post again.

I will definately be posting more in February.

I miss sharing my life with yiu.

Sunday night was our last night in Vegas.  While I was waiting for husband to finish playing a slot machine before we went to our room for thenight I put a $20 on the Can Can machine.  On my first spin I got the bonus round and received 8 free spins.

Twice I was 2 clicks away from winning $8,970.

Twice I grabbed my husband’s leg and said, ‘That would have been so cool!”

“They like to tease you,” he replied.

I don’t agree.

To me, it means possibility.  It’s possible that I could win $8,790.  It’s possible more money can come into my life.

I like possible.

After breakfast the next morning I played The Wizard of  Oz slot machine and landed the bonus twice.  I won $126.35

Three hours later and about ten minutes before we had to leave for the airport I landed the bonus on The Voice slot machine.  I won $112.63.

It figures.  I’m on a hot streak and we have to leave.  Grrrrr.

Last night on the way home I bought a couple of lottery tickets.  A little treat to myself for working 10 hours.

I scratched a $1 packer ticket.  The winning number was eight.  I. Had 5 eights.  Ididnt get too excited. I figured I was going $5.  Maybe $50.

I won $500!!!!!

Yeah me!!!!

Yes, I am lucky but I have been preparing for this. 

How? You ask.

For the last three or four months I have been listening to money and millionaire affirmations on you tube before I go sleep.

A week before we went to Vegas i started repeating this phrase to myself:

People love to give me money.

That week I found pennies and dimes on the ground.  Even a dollar.  I’ve had coupons for a dollar or two off of my next shopping trip print out for me at the register.  I even found a dollar bill on the ground in Vegas.

Nothing major.

Until now.

I can’t wait to see what comes next.

I truly believe that letting go of all of that stuff  (along with the affirmations) has cleared the way for money to come into my life.

I’m saving the money and spending it on something to do with my writing.  I want a new computer.  What I won is almost 1/2 of the cost. 

I’ll let you know what I decide.

I must go and fill out the lottery paperwork to claim my prize.  I’ll send it in and in a week or so I will have my money in hand.

Yes!!!

Happy Friday!

I don’t know if I shared my savings plan with you at the beginning of last year.  I saved each week until the pandemic hit and stopped.

I’m going to try again this year.

Here is how it works:

Get 52 envelopes. Mark envelopes 1 – 52.  Each week pick an envelope.  Whatever number is on the envelope is the amount of money that is put into the envelope.

Total saved for the year is $1,378.

I bought cute neon envelopes, but there was only 50 on the box so I had double up on two envelopes.

In the top left corner I wrote Date Pulled so I can write the date I put the money in the envelope.

I bought a cute little box from the consignment shop to put them in.

This is the envelope I picked.

I put the money in the envelope and the envelope in the box.

Hopefully I’ll be able to save the whole year.

I’ll let you know my progress each month.

I’m not sure what I’m going to do with the money. I’m just grateful that I have a job and am able to start my saving plan.

Yeah me!