My husband and I have fighting lately. Partly because I don’t think my needs are being met.
I’ve been so busy making sure he gets what he needs done, I’ve ignored myself.
But, the thing I realized today as I write in my journal, is I’m not even sure I know what my needs are.
What do I need to make my mind, body and soul happy and fulfilled?
I know there’s excercise and eating healthy. Getting enough sleep. This is an everyday thing.
But what about on a daily basis? I think it changes. Since I’m been writing in my journal every day, I’ve been hearing or feeling little inklings. For example, I would like to sleep a little longer today or I would like to color today for fifteen minites.
I’ve been trying listening to myself more and be open to what my life and body are telling me.
It’s been weird putting myself first.
I keep asking myself the same question over and over again.
How in the hell did I get so far away from myself and what I want and need?
I’m embarrassed to admit this. It’s really sad at 54 to realize I’ve been putting someone else’s needs and wants before my own and putting myself last. It makes me angry, too.
I say my needs aren’t being met, but it’s been hard to put into words what those needs are.
At first, I was mad at my husband for not giving me what I need. Then I was mad at myself for not knowing.
That’s what I have been thinking about lately. What I need. What I want. I have to admit it seems kind of selfish but it’s also been fun.
I’m getting to know myself again and you know what I’ve learned?
I’m really something special!
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Sometimes your partner cannot give you what you need, except to give you space to give yourself what you need. Creativity is usually the need we all have that is never met. Writing, painting, traveling, whatever gives us that out-of=body experience is what we need and often do not get. It’s hard to enjoy creative outlets alone, but once you start you become your own best friend.
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Makes sense. Thanks!
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You are special! Take your time and you’ll figure out what you want/need. We’re all works in progress
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I never looked at it that way before. Thanks. You’re special too!!
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I am so right there with you. I’ve been exploring my needs. I joined the gym, hired a trainer, started getting my hairs did, go to the metroplex every Wednesday that I can, visit museums and cemetaries and other things that make me think, and I actually give my body the rest and care it needs. I’m just waiting for the day it clashes with Sunshine’s desires🤨
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Good for you!! Wish I lived closer. We could hang out.
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That would be awesome😍😍😍
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We need to take care of ourselves. If we are not Healthy and Happy how can we take care or look after others? You do not have to feel bad. I know it hurts, but sometimes men do not understand. Have you tried calmly explaining that you feel neglected?
Well I am 67 years and mother of two adult children, so I know what I am talking about. Most wive’s, Mother’s who really care for the family tend to feel this way at least from time to time as, the work done in a home and around cannot be seen unlike doing a job outside. You do not have to feel weird. You have all the right to ,Take Care of yourself and be Healthy, Body and Mind and Soul” ❤
Doing things on your own, in or out of home is fine, But the important thing is, "One need to be Loved also in turn" This is usually is the issue. Fighting in a way is, "Not because there are no feelings, why you feel hurt is because you love him and feel bad he is not giving you enough love, attention or not understanding you. Sometimes all that is needed is to somehow get him to see, how he will feel, if you did not take care or not do things for him" Obviously there is not too many things wrong" Yes writing or journaling is the best way to organise our minds and we find out so much about ourselves, so you are doing it correct. Please do not get offended if I have written anything to feel hurt, I mean well as if you read, "My Blog" you will see I have gone through life much more than the usual. I send, "Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies Your Way ❤
I am not sure if it's ok to post the link to my article, but I feel if you read this it will help, or at least the very first page. If it's not ok, you can delete it when you are approving it 🙂
https://iammypath.com/2019/02/22/happiness-freedom-to-be-you/
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