Before And After Menopause

“No soap?”  My husband asked at 530 a.m. after looking in the linen closet.

Before menopause I would say.  “I’ll get it.”  and go downstairs and get it.  He had to go to work.  I didn’t.  I could go back to bed.  I didnt mind.  I felt I was a good wife if I helped him.

After menopause I tell him it’s in the basement and I stay in bed.  Call me rude but he is fully capable of going in the basement and getting the soap himself. 

If I am out of shampoo I don’t call on him to get it for me.  If my shampoo is getting low the next time I am in the basement I bring some upstairs and put it in the closest.  I try to buy in bulk so all of our extra items are kept in the basement.

I don’t mind helping if he is in a rush or doesn’t have time, but if he can do it himself I encourage that behavior.

I was awake, but I didn’t want to get up.  I was warm and comfy and snuggling with the pup. 

Menopause has changed me.  I put myself first.  I am more in tune with what I want and need and I vocalize it. 

And I’m not afraid to stay in bed.